
“Digging Deeper” is a closer look at notable TV moments from the past four decades.
I didn’t watch “Mad About You” regularly during its 1992-99 run on NBC. Frankly, I found the lead characters, Manhattan newlyweds Jamie and Paul Buchman (Helen Hunt, Paul Reiser), a little exasperating.
The Buchmans spoke in a verbal shorthand
that might as well have been Swahili. To say they finished each other’s sentences would be inaccurate because they rarely articulated complete thoughts.
And the things they talked about? All that kvetching about the minutiae of modern urban living?
Forget “Seinfeld” – this was the show about nothing.
At least that’s how it seemed at the time.
It’s not that I hated “Mad About You.”
It’s just that I didn’t like it very much.
Consequently, I haven’t thought much about the show in the past decade.
Then, the other day, I watched “The Conversation,” the “Mad About You” episode NBC aired on this night in 1997.
Much to my surprise, I wasn’t completely annoyed by it.
In fact, you might even say I enjoyed it.
“The Conversation” is one of those “very special episodes” the NBC promotions department was so fond of in the ’90s – except this one really was different.
Instead of a traditional sitcom story in three acts, “The Conversation” was a single, continuous scene, filmed in real time and aired without commercial interruption.
Imagine “24” if it was seen on HBO – with a laugh track.
The plot: Jamie and Paul, now first-time parents, try to teach newborn daughter Mabel how to go to sleep on her own by not responding to her crying for set intervals of time. The couple spends almost the entire episode posted outside their bedroom door, quietly chatting as Mabel cries herself in her bassinet.
Twelve years ago, I’m sure I would have found “The Conversation” maddening: 22 uninterrupted minutes with the Buchmans? Someone hand me the remote – quick!
But I was a different person 12 years ago.
In 1997, I was 23, semi-closeted and very much feeling trapped in suburbia.
Today, I’ve been happily “partnered” for more than nine years and live in Washington, a nice city, albeit one that’s much smaller than Manhattan.
Perhaps the biggest discovery watching “The Conversation” is how much Jamie and Paul’s relationship reminds me of the one I have with my partner Andrew.
Jamie is portrayed as smart and rational; Paul is neurotic and impulsive.
Witness this exchange, which occurs after Paul begins second-guessing the lesson the couple is trying to teach their newborn daughter.
JAMIE: I explained to you exactly what was going to happen. I told you the whole theory. You said, ‘OK.’
PAUL: No, I didn’t say, ‘OK.’ [Adopting a tentative tone] I said, ‘Okaaay.’”
JAMIE: I see.
PAUL: I mean, if it were up to me, I would go in right now and just pick her up.
JAMIE: Well it’s up to you.
PAUL: What do you mean?
JAMIE: It is. I’m not going to do this if you don’t feel right about it.
PAUL: Please don’t make it up to me.
Change “Jamie” to “Andrew” and “Paul” to “Chris” and this could be a transcript of a conversation that happens in my house on any given topic, any given day.
Later, Jamie and Paul sit on the floor outside the bedroom door:
PAUL: Look at that.
JAMIE: What?
PAUL: We have a cabinet here?
JAMIE: Uh huh.
PAUL: Did I know that?
Did I know that? Words I speak fairly regularly around our house.
“The Conversation” ends with Mabel finally drifting off to sleep, and Jamie second-guessing herself.
“We broke her heart,” Jamie tells Paul. “Now she knows we won’t always be there for her.”
Paul sweetly comforts his wife, in a way I’d like to think I comfort Andrew when he’s feeling insecure (which, like, never happens).
Since starting this blog, I’ve lamented how some of my favorite shows from the past don’t hold up.
It happened last month when I revisited “Diff’rent Strokes,” a show I adored as a kid; I’m sure it’ll happen many more times as TV Time Capsule continues.
But occasionally, the reverse is true: Sometimes taking a second look at a show you once dismissed reveals a hidden gem.
These are the happy discoveries in rerun-watching.
Don’t get me wrong: You’re not going to find “Mad About You” perched atop my Amazon wish list.
But the next time I stumble across the show, my first instinct won’t be to change the channel.
From the Pages of TV Guide
8 PM UPN In the House (CC)
At Christmastime, Tonia’s sister (Yolanda Adams) voices to Marlon her doubts that the ministry is her true calling. Meanwhile, Maxwell doctor’s Tiffany’s biology paper.
8:30 NBC NewsRadio (CC)
Jimmy offers to rehire Matthew (Andy Dick) if a WNYXer wins a Christmas talent show, forcing Dave and Beth to sharpen their respective, hidden talents. Throwgall: Kevin McDonald. Jimmy: Stephen Root.
9 PM CBS Michael Hayes (CC) 1:00
A restaurant owner (Richard Sarafian) with a score to settle volunteers to set up an organized-crime boss (Seth Jaffe) who’s milking merchants in a protection scam.
Guest Cast
Jack DeGuiseppe … Castulo Guerra
Julie Siegel … Helen Slater
Tony Rago … Frank D’Amico
10 PM ABC NYPD BLUE (CC) – Crime Drama 1:00
Sipowicz tries to counsel an old school chum’s lowlife daughter, who’s involved with a hoodlum; Simone overhears Naomi (Gabrielle Fitzpatrick) with an Australian accent; Medavoy and Martinez take on a ghoulish case. Wally Sayers: Herb Mitchell.
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